stacyat
- Aug 23, 2011 10:01 pm
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Mom to Emilyn and Hailey (our 20 week angels) and Elim (our 38 week, full term miracle)! |
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First of all, congratulations on the birth of your sweet Elijah! I'm so sorry that he was born so early and is having to stay in the NICU for so long. I know how hard it must be to have to say goodbye to him every night and go home with empty arms. Thinking of you and hoping that he continues to improve and gets to come home sooner rather than later. Hugs!
Stacy
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elijahs mommy
- Aug 23, 2011 10:05 pm
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Thank you Stacy I am counting the days
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Mom to miracles
- Aug 24, 2011 1:25 am
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4-34 weekers and 26 week twins |
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Congrats on the birth of your little one! i know exactly how hard it is to leave your little one every night. My twins were born at 26+ 3 so we spent 58 and 85 days in the NICU.. I know the jealousy feeling also. I think it's perfectly natural, and also part of the grieving process.. I know it's hard, but try to be thankful that her child doesn't have to go through what yours does, and be thankful that you get to watch your little one progress, and grow, while she just had to wonder! Hope your litte one comes home soon!! ((hugs)) ~Sarah~
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HOLLYK108
- Aug 24, 2011 7:07 pm
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Hi,
I know exactly how you feel! When my son was in the NICU, I actually went down to the birth care center and visited a baby of a friend who was due five wks before me. Her daughter was born about a month after my premature son. Yet, the NICU dr's and nurses said in their minds that term baby was "older" than my boy born at preterm... I remember being upset with her cause she was whining the dr would not induce her a wk earlier than he did. The Nerve! I thought. lol. What I wouldn't have given for that extra womb week for my guy! It hurts to leave your baby so much doesn't it? Hang in there. Your Elijah will get out and you will feel so much better! Does your NICU have the option of staying over with your baby? I did that some nights and it really helped. However, it can get addictive to stay. Then you are super tired cuz it's SO hard to sleep in there.
hang in
kiss your guy for me!
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liz loschinskey
- Aug 25, 2011 3:11 am
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Welcome to the world Elijah!!!! Jealousy is a horrible thing that we get plagued with in this most vulnerable time. I wanted to do horrible things to women...what would it solve? Focus your energy twards Elijah, not the jealousy.
Love and light,
Liz
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Ally_Alex_Alivia's_mom
- Aug 25, 2011 3:38 am
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Congratulation on your new baby. Hang in there, it's tough to wait I know. Sending hugs your way.
Chris
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elijahs mommy
- Aug 26, 2011 2:38 am
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Thank you I know I am happy for her and glad her baby doesn't have any problems. And I keep a positive attitude for elijah. I haven't asked if I can sleep here but im sure just have to leave during shift change. My friend told me God only gives special babies to special people. And i think if I could ho through one month already then the other two shouldn't be so bad right...
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esgf
- Aug 26, 2011 12:11 pm
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Abigail's Mom (29 weeks, 3/21/05) |
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The time will go faster than you think. Somedays are slow or upsetting but all of a sudden you will look at your baby and see how far they have come. Our nurses reminded us that we needed breaks to for our mental health and physical when he comes home he will still be a fragile infant with undetermined issues (as of now) so you want to have your strength up for that to so don't forget to eat right etc. My thoughts are with you.
Take care,
Ellen
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little K
- Sep 11, 2011 6:13 pm
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congrats on your little miracle,you have no reason at all to be jealous dont for get you have a miracle baby.I know having a baby in the NICU feels like the days and hours take forever,but sooner then you expect you will have your baby at home.My doughter was born at 26wks weighing 1lb2oz she is now 5yrs old and in perfect condition.Dont give up have faith that your baby will be out soon.Enjoy every minute of his life. Goodluck, Diana
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liz loschinskey
- Sep 13, 2011 5:47 pm
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Little K, It's comforting to know your daughter was such a tiny package and is perfectly healthy now. It's inspiring to know little ones DO grow up 'normal'. My daughter was born at 26 wks, 1lb1oz, 11inches.
She's 2 now and perfectly healthy. A little on the small side, but perfectly healthy.
Loveandlight,
Liz
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Amelia's Mommy
- Sep 20, 2011 7:50 pm
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My little girl was born at 28 weeks and I feel the exact same. We're been in the NICU for 12 weeks now, and although it was her due date yesterday we're still going to be there at least another month. I'm even starting to get jealous of all of the other NICU babies that have already come and gone....
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Mary X
- Sep 20, 2011 9:00 pm
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Dear Amelia's mom,
Please don't be discouraged by seeing other NICU babies leave. Our little one seemed like he was in the NICU for months and we also felt like, "when is our baby coming home?" Don't compare your baby to other babies. Our little boy needed a higher level of care and would go back and forth to another hospital to get that care. So it would seem like he was at the first hospital for a little while and was leaving, but he wasn't coming home. He was going to another hospital. Just hang in there. When our little one started to get better, it was as though nothing was holding him back and he was racing to get out of there. Keep your chin up. She'll be home before you know it.
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stacyat
- Sep 20, 2011 11:06 pm
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Mom to Emilyn and Hailey (our 20 week angels) and Elim (our 38 week, full term miracle)! |
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Big hugs to you Amelia's mom. I'm so sorry that you are having to watch other little ones going home while your sweet girl is still stuck there.
Stacy
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liz loschinskey
- Sep 20, 2011 11:44 pm
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Your day will come! Jealousy is a horrible aspect we all have. I was jealous, too. Extremely. We watched the whole NICU turn over. I was disgusted and so irritated when new parents would come in with 6lb'ers and nothing wrong or kids that are in there for a few days only to get rid of jaundice. (I'm sure these children were in for their own reason's...In my head they were healthy babies that got to go home.) Your day will come! I remember telling myself, there is no way I could be taking care of her at home, she's where she needs to be....for now.
Loveandlight,
Liz
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NathansMom13
- Sep 21, 2011 1:38 pm
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Come to ShareUnion 2012: It's the BEST weekend ever!!! |
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It is hard when other people seem to have what you want more than anything. I am so sorry, your day will come.
Laura
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Amelia's Mommy
- Sep 21, 2011 6:54 pm
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Thanks everyone! It's her lungs that are holding her back, but I'm grateful every day that lungs can grow and heal. Although she's been there for what feels like forever there are a lot worse things that could be wrong with her. I think I'm just finally hitting the breaking point and need a little encouragement.......Now that she recognizes us and is doing better, it's heartbreaking to leave her every morning and evening.
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Ally_Alex_Alivia's_mom
- Sep 22, 2011 12:57 am
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Amelia's mom-
Hang in there. Glad you have joined us here. Sometimes it just feels better to be able to get it out and be able to tell your feelings. Hugs your way.
Chris
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Jackie G
- Sep 23, 2011 2:43 pm
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Mom to a 25 weeker who is now 8 years old and a 38.5 weeker who is now 6 |
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Amelia's Mom -
Some times the days seem unending and the heartbreak of leaving your child is impossible to bear. But then there are days when they take a step forward and you celebrate even the smallest achievement. These kids are fighters, and they will continue to amaze you each day. Look for the good things each day and don't become enveloped in the things you can't control.
Hugs,
Jackie
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Rudy's Mama
- Sep 23, 2011 8:01 pm
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How is your Baby? I'm just joining and I read your story. I hope all is well. Jealousy is normal, but just know everyone has different trial in life. Stat focused!!
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scardycat
- Sep 24, 2011 7:51 am
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hi Amelia's mum. It's normal to feel jealous seeing others going home. She sounds like she's doing really well 2 steps forward no steps back. So great she's doing really well she's a real fighter that's for sure. I know it's hard saying good bye but you know she's in the best care she could have at this time. It's going to be a while before you bring her home but every day is closer. I've been in NICU twice and know exactly how your feeling leaving her. Keep us posted on how she going.
Hugs
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scardycat
- Sep 24, 2011 8:01 am
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Hi Elijah's mum jealously is normal I'm so glad he doing so well he's stepping forward to getting well and he too is a fighter. Aren't they just amazing. I've been a NICU mum and can remember feeling the same way you do right now. Every day is another step closer to going home. He's getting the best care he needs right at this time. Keep us posted on how he's going Hugs
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lukemommy3
- Oct 18, 2011 6:20 pm
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hi I know how u feel when I had my lil girl at 29 weeks a good freind had his lil boy and I had to leave her we where only their for 6 weeks but its like it took for ever to get to take her home but we got to take her home and it was the best thing ever. I know how hard it is to see your lil one like that but he is in the best place for him right now just give it time befor u know it u will be taking him home and u will be like ever outher new mom not geting any sleep.
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stacyat
- Oct 19, 2011 6:16 pm
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Mom to Emilyn and Hailey (our 20 week angels) and Elim (our 38 week, full term miracle)! |
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Hello Lukemommy3 and welcome to Share! I'm so glad to hear your sweet little girl was able to come home after six weeks, that's fantastic! I hope to hear more about her!
Stacy
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34weektwinboys
- Nov 4, 2011 4:31 pm
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Hello
I understand where you are coming from however every child is different. You son will be strong enough to come home soon too just give it time. He is getting all the help and attention he needs. Stay strong
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Speck514
- Dec 18, 2011 12:29 am
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Helloo,
I know how you feel. I had my son at 27 weeks and he was only 1lb 12oz when he was born. He is now 4 weeks old and weighs 2lbs 5oz. He will be a month old 12/19/2011.. Everytime i see families leaving the hospital with their new babies, i hate it.. i get so jealous, i wanna bring my baby home. Just doesn't feel right that I had him and hes in the NICU.. so i know how you feel.. We have to keep our heads up, our children are doing good, and they need to be in the NICU, because its what is best for them. I mean could you imagine bringing our children home with being so tiny. I couldn't i wouldn't know what to do.
Keep yah head up!!!!
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Jackie G
- Dec 19, 2011 1:40 am
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Mom to a 25 weeker who is now 8 years old and a 38.5 weeker who is now 6 |
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When you are in the NICU time goes so slowly. All you want to do it get your baby home - but the drs will know when it's time, and they won't keep him longer than necessary.
Keep your head up, he'll come home soon!
-Jackie
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daynatrosky
- Feb 1, 2012 5:13 am
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Hi, I know what your going through, actually my son was born a 27 weeks and he was 1lb 12 oz. He had lots of things wrong and we had to get through alot, before going home a little after 3 months in the NICU. I remember being stuck sharing a room with another mother in the hospital who got to keep her baby in her room with me and I was so jelous. Getting woken up every hour of the night to a crying baby that is not yours is devastating. I just want to let you know that it does get better! And it make the day you actually do get to go home with your baby EXTRA special!!! My son is now a big healthy 4 year old boy who is 40 lbs already. Time will fly for you and you will be home and able to spend many many many days to come with your little one  I hope this helps a bit... God Bless! Dayna
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jamienator
- Feb 1, 2012 8:58 pm
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can totally relate. we were scheduled to room in with our boys, and then they both had episodes so we couldnt take them home that weekend. this kept up for 2 weeks, we would make it almost 48 hours and be ready to go home then something would come up, and my babies were doing soo well but just another thing would come up. one week 11 babies were leaving the nicu, they would all have their carseats and look so happy. i was happy for them but i just was soo jealous and wanted my babies home with me. The doctors said it would come, and they were right, it eventually did but it just took them awhile until one day they were much better. we have been home a month now and the boys are doing fabulous. the nicu time was soo hard and a roller coaster, as you know all too well. soon your baby will be home with you, it is totally natural to feel jealous and upset. i remember a mom complaining to me about her healthy newborn that he was keeping her up at night and she wasnt getting much sleep. i was soo mad, i wished i could have my boys home, who cares about the lack of sleep? at one point my boys shared a room with a girl who was born at the same weeks as them and she only had to spend 3 days in the nicu and was getting to go home, and we were in there for a month! it was soo frustrating, i felt like i had paid my dues and deserved to take my boys home! just remember that all your feelings are normal, the end is in sight, keep on plugging away!
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tucker'smom
- Feb 2, 2012 8:30 pm
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Mom to Tucker (27 weeker, 05/26/06) |
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Hello Dayna and jamienator, and welcome to Share! Dayna, wow, I can't imagine having to share my hospital room with another mother and her healthy baby. What a hard experience!  Our hospital thankfully just had private rooms. I could hear the babies around us crying, and I wished so much that my baby was with me instead of in the NICU. Jamie, I am so glad that your boys are home now, we have all heard other moms complaining about their newborns. They just don't realize how nice it would be for us to have taken our babies home with us. My son was born at 27 weeks and spent over 8 months in the NICU, so we know the feelings of watching other babies go home all too well. Hugs to you all, keep us updated on your little ones! Leigh
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charlieXmom
- Mar 7, 2012 9:42 pm
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I can totally relate as well! My son was born at 29 weeks on 1/18/12 and has been in the NICU since then... I have so many friends that are pregnant and/or have had babies since then ( btw, I swear, there is a baby boom going on right now!) and I can't help but feel a little jealous when I see that their pregnancies are going wonderfully despite that some of them engage in some questionable stuff while pregnant..... it makes me upset b/c i did everything you are supposed to do to have a healthy pregnancy and stuff still went wrong Hang in there!! Hopefully before we know it, both of us will have our little boys at home with us ! I can't wait!! Big Hugs!! Leah
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esgf
- Mar 9, 2012 4:15 pm
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Abigail's Mom (29 weeks, 3/21/05) |
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Hi Charlie's mom,
It definitely felt like a baby boom when we were in the NICU. I think it is b/c your friends are all having kids and you are places where people with babies are and it is so hard.
Hang in there. He will be home soon.
Ellen
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