scared to try again lost at 23 Weeks

Hi and welcome to Share. I am so very sorry for the loss of your baby. No parent should ever have to experience that kind of pain but all too many mom's on here know that exact pain. Lindsay is right, when you are ready you should meet with your OB to discuss a plan for future possible pregnancies and to see if they know the reason for your preterm delivery. It's best to go into a next pregnancy with a plan of care for youself so you can rest easy. Please know all of us here on Share are here for you. I hope you are able to find some comfort and support during this very difficule time.
Laura

don't be scared dear!!u're just new for it.i can feel ur exact sorrow for i've faced the same loss at the same time as urs at 23 weeks on the past nov and i thought at the beginning that i won't overcome the sorrow and will never try again. but here i am after 7 months trying again and hoping for positive results!! my situation is even harder cs i had to do a myomectomy and ivf.so it's not just counting days and getting pregnant in ordinary easy ways. but still didn't loose faith in god. be strong and do needed examinations prescribed by ur dr and go for it again and say it won't happen again and i'm going to have my healthy baby next time.just don't give up.wish u the best and hope to hear that u overcame ur sorrow and tried again!!want to hear the good news soon! !!!

Welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your loss, I hope that you are able to find some comfort and healing during this hard time.

Katie

Hello and thanks everyone on share,i went to the doc.yesterday they said everything was fine i just know the next time i would have to get a cerlage and have those weekly shots she said its ok to try again just wait a couple of months cause the way i feel now iam nervous and cant wait i just no next time i may need bed rest but i have faith because iam gods child....

Your child is gorgeous by the way! A beautiful addition to the playground in heaven.

Am sorry for your loss! I completely understand what you are going through. I went into labor for no apparent reason at 25w after having a completely normal pregnancy. It all happened so fast that on one weekend, we were planning where to go have dinner and the next, we were planning a funeral. I remember telling my husband while delivering our son in 2010, that I don't ever want to do this again - I was too scared to try and have another baby. But believe me, once you get over the initial pain (it never goes away completely) you'll find the courage to try again. Since losing my son in 2010, I've had two miscarriages and am now on my 4th pregnancy @ 17w. My doctors still don't know what went wrong in 2010, so they are taking all the possible precautions - p17 shots; u/s of cervix etc. This time around I also have gestational diabetes and therefore life has become about needles for me. But if I have to do this all over again, to have another baby, I certainly will. So, give yourself time. You are only going to be stronger with each passing day. If you need to chat/email I can send you my email add. Good luck!

I haven't been through it yet but I know how much I think about being a mom and I know that I will regret it for the rest of my life if I don't take every possible opportunity to make it happen. You should try until you can't try any more. I'm sure the heartbreak you are feeling right now is awfull but, from the stories I hear from moms who have struggled to get pregnant, there is no greater reward than when success is achieved and you have a precious baby to show for your struggles. Don't give up. It's hard but you are a woman and God does not give us more than we can handle so he must have a lot of faith in you!

Toni

I am going through a similar situation. I lost my son at 20wks. He was my first pregnancy, and after that horrible experience I have that same fear. What helps me is trusting that God will remove my fear and praying every chance I get. Stay strong everyday gets a little better.

Patricia

Hugs ladies deciding to try again is tough. Its been 5.5 years since we lost our angel. We are currently pregnant with our rainbow and are 22 weeks 3days. So far everything.is good. Our Dr are being very proactive and we are on the 17p shots. I hope.you find comfort and peace as you are trying to make this decision! Hugs!!

Samantha