A DIFFERENT KIND OF GRIEF, THE LOSS OF "PERFECTION"

tucker'smom
Mar 15, 2012 08:00pm (EST)

Thanks for posting this Laura, this is a great post about the grief of losing perfection.

People who haven't lived it just don't understand, they think we should be so happy that our kids have made it through the NICU...of course we are, but it is still so different from what we expected or planned for, and we have watched our babies go through so much.

You are right about us gaining so much more. Tucker has taught me a lot in his almost six years!

Hugs, great job!

Leigh

mrsmaxson
Mar 16, 2012 01:27am (EST)

Because I have not experienced it, I can only imagine how having a child with a birth defect would be a painful loss of all that you dream for your child and your family before you know what's coming. I don't know how you find the strength to deal with your own grief as you care for your little one who needs so much more than you imagined. I really admire your courage!

Thank you for sharing your perspective.

Shannon

KHolley
Mar 16, 2012 02:53pm (EST)

Love this post...and you!

Katie

imani'smom
Mar 19, 2012 03:29pm (EST)

It is not easy to work through all the feelings of losing that perfect pregnancy, childbirth and then having a child with a deformity. You feel it all piling on and on with no end in sight.

I know for me, bringing her home was the big goal. Yes, the NICU stay may have ended- for us it meant a lifelong road with tons of work had just begun.

Great post... Thanks

Cathy

Donna S
Mar 19, 2012 11:40pm (EST)

So beautifully said.

Love and hugs,
Donna

javbmom
Mar 20, 2012 11:41pm (EST)

Laura thank you for writing this post. I understand all the feelings you talked about. Such a great post. HUGS

Laura

Madisons mom
Mar 20, 2012 11:48pm (EST)

Beautifully said. Love this post. Pretty much sums it up all our feelings. Love you girlie xoxo

xoxo
Jessica

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