liz loschinskey
- Sep 20, 2011 11:44 pm
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Your day will come! Jealousy is a horrible aspect we all have. I was jealous, too. Extremely. We watched the whole NICU turn over. I was disgusted and so irritated when new parents would come in with 6lb'ers and nothing wrong or kids that are in there for a few days only to get rid of jaundice. (I'm sure these children were in for their own reason's...In my head they were healthy babies that got to go home.) Your day will come! I remember telling myself, there is no way I could be taking care of her at home, she's where she needs to be....for now.
Loveandlight,
Liz
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NathansMom13
- Sep 21, 2011 1:38 pm
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Come to ShareUnion 2012: It's the BEST weekend ever!!! |
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It is hard when other people seem to have what you want more than anything. I am so sorry, your day will come.
Laura
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Amelia's Mommy
- Sep 21, 2011 6:54 pm
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Thanks everyone! It's her lungs that are holding her back, but I'm grateful every day that lungs can grow and heal. Although she's been there for what feels like forever there are a lot worse things that could be wrong with her. I think I'm just finally hitting the breaking point and need a little encouragement.......Now that she recognizes us and is doing better, it's heartbreaking to leave her every morning and evening.
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Ally_Alex_Alivia's_mom
- Sep 22, 2011 12:57 am
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Amelia's mom-
Hang in there. Glad you have joined us here. Sometimes it just feels better to be able to get it out and be able to tell your feelings. Hugs your way.
Chris
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Jackie G
- Sep 23, 2011 2:43 pm
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Mom to a 25 weeker who is now 8 years old and a 38.5 weeker who is now 6 |
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Amelia's Mom -
Some times the days seem unending and the heartbreak of leaving your child is impossible to bear. But then there are days when they take a step forward and you celebrate even the smallest achievement. These kids are fighters, and they will continue to amaze you each day. Look for the good things each day and don't become enveloped in the things you can't control.
Hugs,
Jackie
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Rudy's Mama
- Sep 23, 2011 8:01 pm
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How is your Baby? I'm just joining and I read your story. I hope all is well. Jealousy is normal, but just know everyone has different trial in life. Stat focused!!
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scardycat
- Sep 24, 2011 7:51 am
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hi Amelia's mum. It's normal to feel jealous seeing others going home. She sounds like she's doing really well 2 steps forward no steps back. So great she's doing really well she's a real fighter that's for sure. I know it's hard saying good bye but you know she's in the best care she could have at this time. It's going to be a while before you bring her home but every day is closer. I've been in NICU twice and know exactly how your feeling leaving her. Keep us posted on how she going.
Hugs
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scardycat
- Sep 24, 2011 8:01 am
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Hi Elijah's mum jealously is normal I'm so glad he doing so well he's stepping forward to getting well and he too is a fighter. Aren't they just amazing. I've been a NICU mum and can remember feeling the same way you do right now. Every day is another step closer to going home. He's getting the best care he needs right at this time. Keep us posted on how he's going Hugs
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lukemommy3
- Oct 18, 2011 6:20 pm
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hi I know how u feel when I had my lil girl at 29 weeks a good freind had his lil boy and I had to leave her we where only their for 6 weeks but its like it took for ever to get to take her home but we got to take her home and it was the best thing ever. I know how hard it is to see your lil one like that but he is in the best place for him right now just give it time befor u know it u will be taking him home and u will be like ever outher new mom not geting any sleep.
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stacyat
- Oct 19, 2011 6:16 pm
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Mom to Emilyn and Hailey (our 20 week angels) and Elim (our 38 week, full term miracle)! |
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Hello Lukemommy3 and welcome to Share! I'm so glad to hear your sweet little girl was able to come home after six weeks, that's fantastic! I hope to hear more about her!
Stacy
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34weektwinboys
- Nov 4, 2011 4:31 pm
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Hello
I understand where you are coming from however every child is different. You son will be strong enough to come home soon too just give it time. He is getting all the help and attention he needs. Stay strong
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Speck514
- Dec 18, 2011 12:29 am
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Helloo,
I know how you feel. I had my son at 27 weeks and he was only 1lb 12oz when he was born. He is now 4 weeks old and weighs 2lbs 5oz. He will be a month old 12/19/2011.. Everytime i see families leaving the hospital with their new babies, i hate it.. i get so jealous, i wanna bring my baby home. Just doesn't feel right that I had him and hes in the NICU.. so i know how you feel.. We have to keep our heads up, our children are doing good, and they need to be in the NICU, because its what is best for them. I mean could you imagine bringing our children home with being so tiny. I couldn't i wouldn't know what to do.
Keep yah head up!!!!
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Jackie G
- Dec 19, 2011 1:40 am
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Mom to a 25 weeker who is now 8 years old and a 38.5 weeker who is now 6 |
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When you are in the NICU time goes so slowly. All you want to do it get your baby home - but the drs will know when it's time, and they won't keep him longer than necessary.
Keep your head up, he'll come home soon!
-Jackie
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daynatrosky
- Feb 1, 2012 5:13 am
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Hi, I know what your going through, actually my son was born a 27 weeks and he was 1lb 12 oz. He had lots of things wrong and we had to get through alot, before going home a little after 3 months in the NICU. I remember being stuck sharing a room with another mother in the hospital who got to keep her baby in her room with me and I was so jelous. Getting woken up every hour of the night to a crying baby that is not yours is devastating. I just want to let you know that it does get better! And it make the day you actually do get to go home with your baby EXTRA special!!! My son is now a big healthy 4 year old boy who is 40 lbs already. Time will fly for you and you will be home and able to spend many many many days to come with your little one  I hope this helps a bit... God Bless! Dayna
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jamienator
- Feb 1, 2012 8:58 pm
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can totally relate. we were scheduled to room in with our boys, and then they both had episodes so we couldnt take them home that weekend. this kept up for 2 weeks, we would make it almost 48 hours and be ready to go home then something would come up, and my babies were doing soo well but just another thing would come up. one week 11 babies were leaving the nicu, they would all have their carseats and look so happy. i was happy for them but i just was soo jealous and wanted my babies home with me. The doctors said it would come, and they were right, it eventually did but it just took them awhile until one day they were much better. we have been home a month now and the boys are doing fabulous. the nicu time was soo hard and a roller coaster, as you know all too well. soon your baby will be home with you, it is totally natural to feel jealous and upset. i remember a mom complaining to me about her healthy newborn that he was keeping her up at night and she wasnt getting much sleep. i was soo mad, i wished i could have my boys home, who cares about the lack of sleep? at one point my boys shared a room with a girl who was born at the same weeks as them and she only had to spend 3 days in the nicu and was getting to go home, and we were in there for a month! it was soo frustrating, i felt like i had paid my dues and deserved to take my boys home! just remember that all your feelings are normal, the end is in sight, keep on plugging away!
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tucker'smom
- Feb 2, 2012 8:30 pm
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Mom to Tucker (27 weeker, 05/26/06) |
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Hello Dayna and jamienator, and welcome to Share! Dayna, wow, I can't imagine having to share my hospital room with another mother and her healthy baby. What a hard experience!  Our hospital thankfully just had private rooms. I could hear the babies around us crying, and I wished so much that my baby was with me instead of in the NICU. Jamie, I am so glad that your boys are home now, we have all heard other moms complaining about their newborns. They just don't realize how nice it would be for us to have taken our babies home with us. My son was born at 27 weeks and spent over 8 months in the NICU, so we know the feelings of watching other babies go home all too well. Hugs to you all, keep us updated on your little ones! Leigh
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charlieXmom
- Mar 7, 2012 9:42 pm
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I can totally relate as well! My son was born at 29 weeks on 1/18/12 and has been in the NICU since then... I have so many friends that are pregnant and/or have had babies since then ( btw, I swear, there is a baby boom going on right now!) and I can't help but feel a little jealous when I see that their pregnancies are going wonderfully despite that some of them engage in some questionable stuff while pregnant..... it makes me upset b/c i did everything you are supposed to do to have a healthy pregnancy and stuff still went wrong Hang in there!! Hopefully before we know it, both of us will have our little boys at home with us ! I can't wait!! Big Hugs!! Leah
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esgf
- Mar 9, 2012 4:15 pm
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Abigail's Mom (29 weeks, 3/21/05) |
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Hi Charlie's mom,
It definitely felt like a baby boom when we were in the NICU. I think it is b/c your friends are all having kids and you are places where people with babies are and it is so hard.
Hang in there. He will be home soon.
Ellen
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brycesmommy26
- Apr 17, 2012 7:57 pm
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think thats the hardest part watching other moms and dads take there baby home while ur baby has to stay there but just know ur baby is in the best hands he or she can b in right now and if u brought him or her home it would b bad right now they still need help i know its so hard to think that way so easy to say one day ur baby will come home and it will b the best/scariest day ever i was scared to bring my baby home cause he was always on a heart moniter ever sence i was 29 weeks preg and efter he was born at 31 weeks so i was scared his heartbeat would drop and i wouldnt know but they wont let ur baby come home until they r 100 precent sure he or she is ready one day will b ur day i promise u
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SophiasMomma
- Apr 21, 2012 2:41 am
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I remember leaving the hospital and as my sister wheeled me out I just cried and cried.... It didnt start there.... In recovery I could hear the crying babies and the happy families. I was so upset and jealous. Here i was stuck in bed... I couldnt even see my lil girl for a few days because I was so sick. The nurse took a picture right away so I could see here. I understand your jealousy! But I agree looking back I was blessed she had such a great group of nurses and drs to care for her! I was able to rest up and get ready while she was getting bigger =)
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Jennis226
- May 5, 2012 12:34 pm
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I went through the same thing. I had my son at 29 weeks and remember being jealous of the babies that were doing so much better than him in the nicu. I was there for 63days. And I am blessed with the doctors and nurses he had because he has come such a long way. Hang in there before you know it you will be home
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ElysMommy
- May 12, 2012 12:12 pm
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Ik how you feel. Literally half my friends had kids in the past 3 months, and my baby was the only one with something wrong. She was born full term, but didn't poop for the first 24 hours. They kept us another night and still no poop. They DoD xrays and that showed what they called a shadow in her intestines. The next day she had surgery and they found that her small intestines weren't connected to her large. Well they connected them, she healed and even started pooping, but still couldnt digest food properly. Her surgeon did different tests and saw that her colon wasn't working right, so he did a biopsy and it turns out she has hirschsprungs disease. She's been in.the nicu for a month now and its been the worse time of my life. I hate seeing pictures of all my friends at home with their babies. And I especially hate leaving.her at night.
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DestinyAdams
- Jun 24, 2012 7:45 pm
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Advocate/Volunteer; raising awareness one step at a time. |
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Jealousy is a natural feeling; especially when it comes to your situation. Our son was in the NICU during Christmas; even though I was excited to see babies go home with their families in time for the holidays, I was also jealous that my family couldn't be together on Christmas. My husband and I had to divide christmas between our oldest son at home and our son in the NICU. Due to toddlers not being allowed in our NICU, we had to find a balance. It didn't feel fair.. I was jealous that people were spending their holidays at home, My husband and I were in the NICU with our sick son, and our oldest was with his grandparents. We weren't together. It was terrible. I hope that you're able to take your precious baby boy home soon. I'm sending prayers your way. -Des
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aprilfoolsbaby01
- Jul 10, 2012 1:44 pm
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Hello Elijahs mom im new here but i like many NCIU moms know how you my son bryan was born at 24 wks on aprils fools this year and has been in the NCIU ever since bt hes 2 hours away from me but i know hel get better hes 100 days today so he must be doin sumthing good dont worry ur baby will be home soon just take this time as extra time to prepare for him hope everything goes good
-Daisy
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liz loschinskey (Jul 10, 2012 7:00 pm)
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liz loschinskey
- Jul 10, 2012 7:00 pm
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Jackie G
- Jul 14, 2012 12:31 pm
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Mom to a 25 weeker who is now 8 years old and a 38.5 weeker who is now 6 |
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Daisy - I hope Bryan is home soon! I promise that one day it will seem like the whole NICU thing flashed by in just a few short moments.
-Jackie
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