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Need some helpmommyslilangel2/7/12 - 06:15am Feb 20, 2012 ESTHey, names Miranda. Me and my fiancé lost our first baby Adisyn on February 7th 2012, 2 weeks prior to me having her she passed away. We are taking things really hard. My fiancé will talk to other people but wont talk to me about what happened and when i try to tell him how im feeling about things he get mad. We are currently not living under the same roof due to our apartment caught on fire a couple days before Adisyn passed away. It feels like we are going our own way and i don't know what i would do if i lost him to. How can i get him to open up to me? Need Help!!! 
liz loschinskey
- Feb 20, 2012 3:06 pm
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Hi Miranda. Welcome to Share! I'm sorry to hear of your daughter and your fiance not communicating.
Not to many people know this about me, my son, Mikey who passed away was before I got married to my husband.
Long story short, at the time, I was thinking the same thing you were. EXACT SAME THOUGHTS. I lost my son now his father? Let me tell you something. It broke my heart again, when it happened. My whole world came crashing down around me. However, I was and AM so much better off without him. He chose to cut off communication. He chose to move out. He chose to not want to be with me.
As harsh as that sounds, why would I want to be with someone like that? Someone that can't communicate about our child. Someone that doesn't want to be with me.
Keep us updated,
Love and Light,
Liz
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NathansMom13
- Feb 20, 2012 3:47 pm
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Hi Miranda, I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Adisyn. Maybe your fiancee doesn't communicate with you about her because he feels like it is upsetting to you and he doesn't want to cause you more pain. My advice is that if you want the relationship to work go see a counselor together, you need to work through the grief and pain together. But keep in mind that some relationships can't survive the death of a child if people stop communicating completley. I hope you are able to work through things with your fiancee.
Laura
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stacyat
- Feb 20, 2012 5:09 pm
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Mom to Emilyn and Hailey (our 20 week angels) and Elim (our 38 week, full term miracle)! |
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Hi Miranda, I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Adisyn. Losing a child is the most heart wrenching and confusing thing that can happen to a person. I think Laura's thought of going into counseling together for a little while might help. It will let the both of you process the loss of your daughter. It may not fix things, but it's so early after your loss that I would expect things to be on shaky ground for you alone let alone the relationship. From my experience with my husband, he rarely talks about Emilyn and Hailey but it will come out at random times, I've learned to just let him be and let him talk about them when he's comfortable. That doesn't mean that I don't talk about the girls, I just don't expect him to say much about it. Tons and tons of hugs to you, I hope that your fiance learns how to better process his grief and the two of you grow back to being close.
Stacy
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