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OH, WHAT A NIGHT!!!

Jun 23, 2009 02:22pm (EST)

What a long night!

3AM
Both kids started whimpering.

Mickey said his butt hurt...literally...his butt crack. He wanted some Desitin on it.

Then LG cried and complained that her ear hurt. She said it had water in it and wanted me to get it out but didn't want me to touch it.

Then Mickey wanted more butt paste.

Then LG wanted some "took" (heck, I don't even know how to spell it, but that's the vietnamese word for "medicine") for her ears.

Then Mickey wanted to go sleep in our bed with Daddy.

Then LG wanted Daddy.

He goes in there.

I go back to my bed with Mickey in it.

Then LG wanted some milk.

Then Mickey kicks me.

Then Billy comes back to bed. I can't sleep because my bum-bum is freezing since Mickey kicked off all the covers.

Then I heard, "I'm late. I'm late." I get up to get Mickey dressed to go to work with Billy.

Finally, some sleep for me, but wait...

Then LG crawls into bed with me. We slept for another 30 minutes.

Then it was off to school for her since she said her ears weren't hurting anymore...and since I'm busy all day today...meeting an old friend for lunch, then sitting in on our school's interview panel to interview 4 asst principals. Fun times, y'all!!!

When is nap time???

Jac
picture: Father's Day card


Father's Day 2009 copy

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SWIM LESSONS

Jun 16, 2009 02:41am (EST)

My first week of summer was already busy, busy. The mutts started swim lessons last week. They so loved the water so I knew Mickey needed a refresher course while Lily Grace needed authentic lessons instead of swimming with her floaties.

Mickey did great as expected. He jumped right in and pretty much picked up where he left off last summer with this same teacher. However this year, Ms. Jennifer is teaching him more of the mechnical side to the free stroke. He's learning proper arm movements and leg kicks as well as breathing to the side. He's doing an awesome job! Of course his favorite part of the lesson is the last 5 minutes where he can have some free time...jumping off the diving board!

Lily Grace loves the water as well, however, she's never been without her arm floaties before which also means she's never put her face in the water while holding her breath. She started off blowing bubbles and after just 2 lessons, she was putting her entire face in the water and swimming 3 to 4 feet to Ms. Jennifer. Today, she didn't want to get out of the water when the lesson was over. She cried and whimpered as she crawled out.

One more week of swim lessons, but I think Lily Grace will continue onto the next level. She'll definitely want to go just to hang out with Ms. Jennifer more.

Today, I decided to bring along my camera and captured some great shots of them during their lessons. And of course, y'all know me, I had to photoshop them. LOL

Jac


Mickey Swim Collage copy


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KINDERGARTEN GRADUATE

Jun 09, 2009 01:56pm (EST)

What an awesome year it's been for the Mickster! He was so blessed to have an incredible, patient, loving teacher. Not only did she make this year so much fun, she helped to mold him into a life-long learner. He learned so much and just loved every minute of it. He's reading and writing...man, he loves to write! He's working on a chapter book right now.

We think she's awesome! And as does everyone else at our school...she was named Teacher of the Year! But not only was Mrs. B his teacher, she became a great friend, supporter and walker on our Haynes Phamily team. Thank you for your friendship. Thank you for an absolutely fabulous year! We love you, Mrs. B!


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MARKING THEIR TERRITORIES

May 24, 2009 07:39pm (EST)

People often laugh when they hear me affectionately refer to my kids as mutts. Well...they are half-breds after all. LOL They yap nonstop. They love to eat meat off the bone. They like to sit in our laps. They love to go for walks and rides. They would rather be outside running around, chasing each other than being stuck inside. You get the idea.

Well, they added another item to the above list...marking their territories.

While Round Eye was in the shower this morning, the mutts had an altercation over a wooden block. Next thing I know, the Mickster wrote the following on HIS bedroom door and Woogie started to write her name on HER door. "No btey (body) in my room" and "L".

While his spelling is quite impressive...and I'm sure Lily Grace's would have been as well had I not stopped her after the first letter...I was not impressed with this marking...with a marker no less.

Hmmm...they spent some time with their noses to the wall with hands behind their backs...too bad we don't have kennels! LOL Oh my!


Mick's Door


Woogie's Door

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M-O-T-H-E-R

May 06, 2009 11:19pm (EST)

M…motivational
O…open-minded
T…teacher
H…honest
E…enthusiastic
R…respected

To all our Share moms, have a wonderful Mother’s Day!

Jac

PS. Join us for a live Mother’s Day chat here tomorrow, May 7th at 2pm EST with Melissa Middleton
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TAKE FOUR: OUR PASSION FOR MARCH FOR BABIES

Mar 09, 2009 02:55am (EST)

Every expectant parent looks forward to celebrating the birth of a healthy baby. Billy and I were no different. But each year in the United States, more than half a million babies are born too soon. Our Lily Grace helps make up this statistic.

The March of Dimes has made defeating prematurity a national priority, and Billy and I are excited to work along side them to help save the lives of babies. Babies like our daughter--born 6 weeks too early. This year, I am serving as a Family Team Partner...and will be volunteering at various walk events around the city. This year, March for Babies is on Sunday, April 26th at the University of Houston Robertson Stadium.

Most of you know our story. The following is a featured article that highlighted our story in the March of Dimes September 2008 eNewsletter.

With a two-and-a-half-year-old son as the love of our lives, we waited patiently and jumped for joy when those “you’re pregnant!” pink lines appeared in early 2005. We were thrilled yet very nervous and scared -- especially after having endured two previous miscarriages. However, things were going well and looking up for us.

Mid-July of 2005, diagnosed with placenta previa and preterm labor, I was placed on strict bed rest at home with around-the-clock medications to control the contractions. Then on August 2, while lying on the couch with my son, Mickey, I felt a strange sensation that warranted a trip to the bathroom. That strange sensation was caused by profuse hemorrhaging, which landed me on hospital bed rest for the duration of my pregnancy.

On the morning of September 19th, we welcomed our barely 34-week-gestation baby girl, Lily Grace, into this world by cesarean section. After a brief kiss, she was rushed to the NICU for more specialized care, while I needed some care of my own. Unfortunately, my placenta had adhered itself to my uterus, making it impossible to deliver, so an emergency hysterectomy was performed as well.

If not hitting the desired 36 weeks, having an unexpected c-section and an emergency hysterectomy, and seeing your baby girl rushed to the NICU were not enough, Hurricane Rita was heading for southeast Texas, adding to our stress. Nothing could have prepared my heart for the immense emotional and physical pain of evacuating the city two days later without my precious newborn. We had to leave our baby girl behind. Who could do such a thing? How could we do that to her? Would she know that we didn’t have a choice? How could we get through this?

After enduring six long days of heart-wrenching pain by being miles away, we were reunited with our sweet baby girl at last. The next few weeks found us next to her Isolette every day, holding and nurturing her until she became strong enough to come home on October 6.

Although Lily Grace came home with an apnea monitor and oxygen to use during feeds, she made tremendous progress in the NICU due to the research and medical advances accomplished by the March of Dimes. Without their emotional support and invention of surfactant therapy, Lily Grace would not be the happy, bouncy, healthy almost three-year-old she is today.


Without the March of Dimes, our lives with Lily Grace would not be possible. We know there are many, many worthwhile charities out there. In financial reality, we have to pick and choose the one or ones that are closest to our own hearts. This is the one closest to *my* heart. This is the one closest to *Billy's* heart. This is the one closest to *my families’* hearts. Prematurity does not just affect the baby - it affects the entire family! We all need to understand that placing resources with the March of Dimes...a time tested organization who's never failed a mission yet...will be an investment...not just in our families, but in our country's future.

Much love,
Billy, Jaclyn, Mickey & Lily Grace
Haynes Phamily Team

P.S. This year, a very good friend of mine delivered a son born 12 weeks too soon. Blake Joseph was born weighing 1 pound, 6 ounces – and is currently in the NICU. This year we walk not only for Lily Grace but also for baby Blake. We walk for Ava Marie who was blessed to be born healthy and full-term. We walk for a team walker, and a teacher’s unborn children and pray they get their full 40 weeks. We walk for friends who have yet to have babies…because EVERY baby deserves a healthy start.


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TAKE THREE: WHY I MARCH FOR BABIES

Feb 23, 2009 06:30pm (EST)

Three years ago when I first participated in WalkAmerica, my reasons for walking was quite clear…Lily Grace and her early arrival. It’s only been recently that I’ve come to realize that there were more reasons that I walked, but that I’ve always just pushed them aside. It’s only been recently that I’ve come to realize that I walk not just for prematurity, birth defects and infant deaths…but for the babies I’ve lost.

A recap…
Take One: Miscarriage
Take Two: Michael William born February 15, 2003

Take Three:

When Mickey was about 18 months old, Billy and I decided we were ready to try for another baby. Again, we were blessed and conceived right away.

Everything was smooth sailing until October 2004 at just 11 weeks along, I started cramping and spotting. This time Billy was with me as we watched the ultrasound confirm yet another still, quiet heart…another heart break...the loss of our third baby.

“At least it was early on. Better now then later.”
“It wasn’t meant to be. There’s a reason for everything.”
“At least you know you can get pregnant again.”
“At least you have Mickey.”

A loss is a loss early or later. Is it really in God’s plan for us to suffer and hurt so much? Who could think of having another pregnancy after this lost? And yes, we had Mickey. We should be thankful and feel totally fortunate that we had a sweet baby boy to love, but it didn’t make the desire to want another one and the pain for the loss of another one any easier and less intense.

In years past, I walked for Lily Grace and her early arrival, and all the babies born too soon. This year, I will continue to walk for her and others. But this year, I walk with a greater passion…a new found perspective of loss and understanding. This year I walk for all the rainbows and butterflies who fill our skies. This year I walk for my two babies that I lost…actually they aren’t lost at all…I know exactly where they are…in Heaven waiting for me.

To participate, visit: www.marchforbabies.org.

Jac
Marchforbabies.org/lilygrace


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TAKE TWO

Feb 14, 2009 05:59pm (EST)

Saturday, February 15, 2003

It was about 9 AM. Billy had left for work just 30 minutes before. I was lying around in bed flipping and flopping. Suddenly, I heard this little pop. The sensation of a trip to the bathroom overcame me so I waddled to the hallway restroom. I sat down. SWOOSH and more SWOOSH and more SWOOSH! My water just broke!

I called Billy and told him to come home. I called the nurse and waited for her office to call back. I called my sister to ask her to come. I was actually quite calm.

I jumped in the tub to wash off. As I got out…SWOOSH! I got back in for the second time. As I got out…SWOOSH again! Back in the tub again for the third time and as I got out…you got! SWOOSH! So I gave up and just sat on a towel on the floor and proceeded to put my make-up on and do my hair.

My sister barges in frantically.

“What are you doing? Do you have your bag? Isn’t Billy here yet? Oh my gosh! Put your clothes on. Let’s go!” All the while running around acting like a chicken without her head on! She was quite the sight given that she’s had 3 kids of her own, but I guess this was the first time for her to be “on the other side”. LOL

I assured her that Billy was on his way and that the hospital is expecting us as soon as well get there. Like a big sister though, she still rushed me out the door. LOL

After a few hours of relaxing and watching golf on tv while listening to Billy tell jokes to my OB, the Pitocin and Epidural did their jobs and I was ready to see my son. However, my desire to push was much greater than my body was ready for. After only 25 minutes of pushing, he came out kicking, punching, and tearing at my cervix…and more. It took the doctor twice as long to sew me up and stop the bleeding then it took for me to push him out.

The physical pain took another 3 months and weeks upon weeks of pain meds before I would fully recover and could return to work. But, that day was one of the happiest days of my life after having to endure that first miscarriage. I was more than beyond thrilled to see him, hold him, and love on him. I was in love.

I was totally blessed to have had this easy road and this perfect baby. I do know how fortunate I am…truly I do…now…but not then.

Take Three…more heartache to come.

  • *********************

    Michael William aka Mickey
    Feburary 15, 2003 @ 4:17 PM
    6 lbs 7 oz, 18 ¾ in.
    37 weeks exactly

    PS. Yes, pictures of him in the attic...don't ask. LOL


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    TAKE ONE

    Feb 03, 2009 06:21pm (EST)

    When Billy and I started our family planning, we had no idea how easy yet heartbreaking it would be. January 2002 found us in our “magic” month. I wanted a Christmas baby so I thought we’d “try” for a few months in hopes for a winter baby. Fortunately, we were totally blessed and conceived on our first attempt that January.

    All was well until one morning while at school, I started having the brown patchy spotting. I called my nurse, but they assured me that it was just residual discharge which was normal. It wasn’t until a few hours later that I noticed an increase with more pinkish tints. I called the nurse back and headed in to my OB’s office. Since they weren’t alarmed but just wanted to check things out, I drove myself especially since Billy was busying working giving golf lessons. (He was still in the golf business back then.)

    I laid on the ultrasound table and diligently watched as my doctor scanned and scanned. After several minutes, I’ll never forget those words…”Jaclyn, I’m so so sorry. I can’t find a heartbeat. I don’t see a heartbeat. I’m so sorry. You’ve lost the baby.”

    I sat in the parking garage and cried to Billy on the phone before I drove myself home.

    That night as I laid in bed sobbing, Billy came in and said, “It’s okay, Baby. Do you know that if we never ever have another baby, I’m still the luckiest guy alive? I have you as my wife. You are the most important thing to me and no baby will ever change that.”

    Take Two: The birth of Mickey coming soon.
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    HANDWRITING FUN

    Jan 13, 2009 02:45am (EST)

    Kelly (Katelyn's mom) posted a good question in the cafe about handwriting, and my name was thrown in there like I really know something about handwriting. LOL Numbers are more my speed though I did spend my first 2 years teaching students with dyslexia and do have some knowledge about those characteristics, reversals, and reading fluency delays.

    I started to post a comment in the cafe, but it was getting a little too lengthy so I thought I'd post it in my blog here for those of you who are interested. Please, I'm not an expert and would never think that my suggestions are the best, but ...well, it's all I gots. LOL

    Okay, here's my take on handwriting...

    Letter and number reversals are very common even throughout first grade and some of second grade. However, if your child has some reading fluency concerns on top of reversals, there may be other issues at hand that has played in his poor handwriting skills. Handwriting and reading fluency do go hand in hand...pardon the pun. With that said though, let's just focus on handwriting and what we as parents can do to assist them.

    First, let the teachers at school do the paper and pen practice while we do the fun "handwriting practice." There should never be any tears over handwriting. And if you insist on paper and pen practice, I recommend limiting Kindergarteners to 5 minutes with an additional 5 minutes for each grade level thereafter.

    Here are some fun handwriting activities that I've recommended to my parents in the past...

    1. Spray a fistful of shaving cream on your table and let the kids practice tracing letters with it (like fingerpainting), smooth it over and do the next letter. When you finish, let them wipe the table off...it's now clean and smells nice too.

    2. (One of Shonda's favorite activities to do with her kiddos.)Water painting the letters with a brush on the fence...of course, when the weather is appropriate. When it's too cold for being outside, let them water paint with a brush in the tub on the walls.

    3. Next time when you make a peanut butter sandwich, let them use a popsicle stick to spread a letter on their bread. While this only lets you practice one or two letters at at time, that's fun practice and it's not "homework".

    4. While you do your elliptical machine, have them air write with their entire arm. This practices big motor skills, letter formation and spatial concepts. Y'all jam out to some fun 80's music and make it a family event. Okay, I haven't done this one with Mickey yet...not the jamming part anyways. LOL

    5. Battleship Play Dough...put a barrier between the two of you, mold an object and describe it to your child. He in turn has to mold the beginning letter for that object. Then check together. ex. "My object is rectangular in shape. It has doors and windows and people live there." Answer: h for house

    6. Letter Stick People...let them draw a letter and let you illustrate stick people out of them. Kids love to watch adults draw.

    Okay, this was totally off the top of my head so that's all I have for y'all. While I know that most of you know and have probably participated in some of the above activities, I hope it gives others of you a starting point. I'm sure your child's teacher can offer much more.

    Jac
    Here's a picture of Mickey water painting his name on the fence.


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